Homecare – building relationships
With the expansion of the Homecare service post Covid, two exciting new groups are changing lives.
Wednesday 25th September 2024
Every morning the alarm sounds at 5.45 a.m. and another ‘ground hog day’ as Mum Michelle describes it begins.
After the feeding, bathing and dressing routines are complete, Michelle drops Emma off at the day centre near to their home in Ramsbottom near Bury and Dad Graeme, a self-employed builder, goes to work.
But life is far from normal for these parents – their daughter is 23 years old.
Emma has a life-limiting condition called Retts Syndrome a rare genetic disorder which affects brain development. Around one in 12,000 children are affected and almost exclusively girls.
“I had a normal delivery and when Emma was born everything was fantastic, we had a gorgeous little girl,” said Michelle. “Emma was about 14 months old when we first noticed something wasn’t right. She wasn’t making any attempt to crawl or to walk. She stopped finger feeding and rolling over, her hands started to clench and all purposeful hand movement stopped.
“The skills she had developed were then lost, which is part of a regression period, and she was left as she is today.
“Her body is the size of a 23 year old, but she still has the mind of a baby so we’re always in baby mode.”
The condition has no known cure and life expectancy can be into the forties.
Emma cannot walk or talk and has had spinal surgery, a hip removed, and has osteoporosis. “80% of her time she’s smiling and content,” explained Graeme. “The other 5% she can be horrendous in pain.”
As more children with life-limiting conditions are surviving into adulthood, the hospice now cares for more than 110 young people who are over sixteen years of age in Francis Lodge, a seven bedroomed wing for teenagers and young adults.
There they can enjoy respite stays with their friends in age-appropriate surroundings that include music, gaming and movie rooms, while still receiving a high level of clinical care.
“We leave Emma here and she has one stay for five nights and another big stay of nine nights,” said Michelle. “We know when she comes here she’s getting the one to one care she needs that she doesn’t get anywhere else.
“Now Emma is older we can go on holiday and have a week in the sun and it’s absolutely fantastic. But if it wasn’t for Francis House being here we wouldn’t do that because we wouldn’t feel relaxed leaving her.”
“Coming here gives us and Emma a real break. I’ve never been comfortable with having people coming into the house to care for Emma, when she’s at home I care for her myself.”
Michelle describes the demands of looking after a young adult with the needs that Emma has as ‘intense’ and Graeme admits the couple have both had really ‘dark times.’ But they both agree there are more positives than negatives.
“Although I love Emma to bits and she is my world I have missed out on a lot, work wise and socially,” said Michelle. “But I don’t regret a bit of it, I don’t look after her begrudgingly she is our world and we love her to bits.
The family home has been adapted to help with lifting and moving and has a rise and fall bed, a track hoist and a rise and fall bath.
With Graeme in his mid-fifties and Michelle her late forties, the couple admit their biggest fear is what will happen to their daughter as they get older.
“We’ve always known there would come a point when we can’t look after her anymore. Physically and mentally, for another twenty years it will be difficult,” admitted Michelle. “It does spur you on to stay healthy stay young and active,” added Graeme.
With the expansion of the Homecare service post Covid, two exciting new groups are changing lives.
Wednesday 25th September 2024
Sisters Emily and Sophie Allen raised £225 for Francis House.
Monday 23rd September 2024